Some warning signs of abuse in the home or in a relationship include:
Pushing for quick involvement:Comes on strong, claiming, “I’ve never felt loved like this by anyone.”
Blaming others for problems or mistakes:It’s always someone else’s fault when anything goes wrong.
Making others responsible for his or her feelings:The abuser says, “You make me angry,” instead of “I am angry,” or says, “You’re hurting me by not doing what I tell you.”
Excessively possessive; calls constantly or visits unexpectedly; prevents you from going to work because “you might meet someone.”
Expects you to be the perfect mate and meet his or her every need.
Threats of violence:
Says things like, “I’ll break your neck,” or “I’ll kill you,” and then dismisses them with, “I didn’t really mean it.”
Admits to hitting a mate in the past, but says the person “made” him (or her) do it.
Expects you to serve, obey and remain at home.
Is easily insulted, claiming hurt feelings when he or she is really mad.
Interrogates you intensely (especially if you’re late) about whom you talked to and where you were; keeps all the money; insists you ask permission to do anything.
Constantly criticizes or says blatantly cruel, hurtful things, degrades, curses, calls you ugly names.
Sudden mood swings:
Switches from sweet to violent in minutes.
Controlling behaviors using social media or technology:
Cyberstalking and creeping your online profile.
Use of force during sex:
Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down against your will during sex.
Cruelty to animals or children:
Kills or punishes animals brutally. Also, may expect children to do things that are far beyond their ability (whips a 3-year-old for wetting a diaper) or may tease them until they cry.